The gist of this “single list” is that life is, from my experience, a lot more complicated when there’s someone else involved.
1 | You don’t have to be socially acceptable
You don’t have to worry about your morning breath, passing gas in bed or looking like a schlep on a Sunday (and being judged for it). You can even extend the 3-second rule to 10 seconds if you want. You clean that floor so you know if it’s a risk you’re willing to take. BOOM.
2 | Flirting, guilt free
See that sexy stranger smiling at you from across the room? Go get ‘em tiger!
3 | Do whatever you want
Feel like eating breakfast for dinner? Done. Offered an awesome job promotion in Timbuktu? Offer accepted. Murder She Wrote marathon? Yes, please.
4 | Discovering how cool you are
It’s great getting to know someone, understand their quirks and learn more about what makes them, them. You know what’s cooler? Doing that with yourself.
5 | No obligations based on others
It is incredibly freeing to not be tethered to another individual’s obligations. The only obligations you have are the ones you choose to make. Don’t feel like going out? Don’t.
6 | Be exotic
If you’re a world wandering single, like myself, then you’ve got the ‘exotic foreigner card’ to play. I encourage you do so.
7 | On that same note I’ve got three words for you – INTERNATIONAL. LOVE. AFFAIR.
8 | Freedom
Act as weird as you want at home without anyone to bear witness to it. Act as weird as you want in public without someone acting incredibly embarrassed by your behavior. It’s nice to not have to give a damn about whether or not someone else does.
9 | No checking in
There’s no one expecting you home by a certain hour and there’s no need to check your phone because you’re not concerned about checking in with anyone or anyone checking in with you. It makes it easier for me to focus on what I’m doing in the moment because I’m not thinking about someone somewhere else.
10 | Selfish- I’ve chosen to use the word ‘selfish’ but I don’t want anyone to think I’m insinuating anything negative by using this term.
Sprawl out and take up every last inch of your bed. Eat the last spoonful of ice cream. Use the hot water up by taking long showers. Do what you like in your own home, because it is all your own.
Where did this list come from?
It was just a month or so ago I realized that after 2+ years of being single, I genuinely love being single. When I first became single I made it a point to remain single for a while. I wanted to get to know myself again. My mistake, however, was that I seemed to think of being single as merely a phase – a phase I needed to go through before my next relationship. Being single, for me at least, is not a phase and I understand that now.
Being single is a lifestyle choice and it’s one I’m really proud to have made. It’s not as glamorous as many of my married friends seem to imagine, but I guess it’s like they say: “The grass is always greener on the other side.”
That being stated, the grass is pretty green over here in Singletown.