Re-reading this post made me realise how truly creepy this all sounds; however, I regret nothing.
I’m a single lady on the road and I like my life as a single woman. I don’t see that changing anytime soon. There are many reasons why:
- I’m too mobile. It’s not that I can’t commit to a long-distance relationship, it’s just that I would need to be in one place long enough to establish a relationship. That’s not something I am capable of at this moment. In the past twelve months I’ve found myself in four different countries, 6 if you count the two I travelled to for the sake of visiting friends/tourism.
- The freedom to flirt shamelessly without guilt. I am a shameless flirt, but it’s probably a little bit charming. Let’s call it cheeky, then. I’m perfectly harmless. As much as I hate to admit it I’m almost all bark and very little bite. 😉
- It’s a cultural experience. Living and loving all over the world is the best. I cannot emphasize what a gift it is to love someone from another culture and be loved by someone from another culture. You learn about a whole different side of a culture when you embrace it in a… well, errr, more intimate manner. Take my post on my ‘First Italian’ (& part 2!). No, Gianni was not the love of my life, but he was fun and it was nice to get acquainted with a different side of another culture. I really enjoyed my time with him, and would never have seen certain parts of Rome nor learned about certain parts of Italian culture had I not met him.
I feel this has already been well-established, but if not, let me emphasize this again. I love to flirt. It makes me feel alive. It also reminds me of the freedom I have as a single woman. So, where does one flirt? Obviously, anywhere and everywhere… as long as there are cute boys present. 😉 I’m a researcher by trade, however, so I prefer to ‘stake out’, if you will, different places for the sake of flirting or just old fashioned creeping.
LOVE + TRAVEL TIP | Love in plain sight
In Shakespeare’s Midsumer’s Night Dream (Act 1, scene 1, line 234), Helena says ‘love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind’ – and I couldn’t agree more, but lust is different.
Lust is anything but blind.
If you’re in a new city, if you’re in your home city or hopping cities such as myself, stake out coffee shops in different neighbourhoods. While one of my favourite coffee shops/pubs here in Zagreb is near Zagreb’s central square and it’s not usually frequented by hotties. Do you know where the real hotties are at? They’re at the coffee shops located West of the center square and nearby the university in Zagreb and are (I can only assume) graduate students… and possibly young professors. How did I figure this out? I got lost – how I managed this in the small city of Zagreb (it’s even on a grid system!), I’m not sure but doing so forced me outside of the central square and into an area with cheaper ciders and coffees and much cuter men (on average).
So, I’ve found myself surrounded by hotties. Now what?
Get ’em, girls! You can do this in a variety of ways – but the most important part is to make yourself somewhat accessible – by this I mean, in their line of vision. Sit somewhere where you can see them. If you can see them, they can see you. Now I’m not saying you should sit right next to them or directly at the coffee table next to them. AND PLEASE – no staring. You’re creeping, sure – but you are NOT desperate. If you’re feeling spritely then ask them for their lighter (this is my go to), what the name of the song playing is or where the nearest gym/copy center/cash machine is.
Anyone who tells you women should never make the first move is from the Middle Ages. If you feel like it, then do it. If you’re like me, you’ll likely enjoy sitting back and enjoying the view, if nothing else. Like I said, I’m more bark than bite. So. Much. Fun. So go out and enjoy single life on the road, ladies. I sure am. 😉
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